Comparison can be devastating no
matter how well intended it may be
Instead of complementing,
comparison often wounds and awards a degree of inadequacy
Comparing a child to another is an
approach of motivation designed for disaster
Motivation comes from within; it is
an inspiration from the least expected direction
The full measure of a person can
only be found within his or her own heart
I plead in my own heart for the
opportunity to be judged by my own merits
Something is inherently wrong with
being compared to someone else
I think anyone would resent it; I, for
one do
It is quit a burden to be expected
to live up to someone else’s accomplishment
Or maybe to live down someone else’s
reputation
But that is not life; I want to
stand on my feet and give a full account of myself
It hurt to remember being compared
to people who are thought to be better
Maybe I was to be intimidated
Maybe I was to be inspired to a
higher level
But whatever must have been the
motives
I remember feeling embarrassed and
hurt
Did that help me?
Do I hate them for that?
To answer the first questions is to
resolves the second
Certainly there are things I can do
better than those people
No matter what a parent’s motives
may be, the child gets a different message
As I child, with every comparison, I
only understood I wasn’t liked the way I am
Not especially when I get to hear
litanies of “does he have two heads?”
Most parents don’t understand how
children’s emotions work
Sometimes in trying to put the
child on, they switch him off perpetually
The appreciation of a child has
nothing to do with how you think of another child
And certainly the appreciation of a
quality in a particular child
Has nothing to do with the lack of
that quality in another child
But would parents ever come in
terms with this? That, I don’t know
This is particularly not fair to
children
Because all a child knows is how
much he/she likes the parents
Often you won’t see them making
comparisons
Mum! Dad! Why then put so much
pressure on your child
The challenge to grow up is so
confusing
Grow up to be like what?
Every single child who can identify
with everything written above, have this challenge
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